Men On A Mission Podcast

Bad breakup? A few more hours at the office. Dad's sick? Work a little more. Daniel Rubin says that isn't dedication. For most men, work is how they numb out.
Peter sits down with Daniel Rubin, a licensed therapist who runs an intensive outpatient program built only for men, for his second time on the show. Recorded the day after the Men on a Mission Foundation launched, the conversation picks up where Episode 007 left off: why most men only get to therapy because a wife or a boss noticed first, why there's no one-and-done fix ("you needed like 4,000 cries since you were four"), and what happens when the one thing a man leans on gets taken away.
Daniel is open about his own recovery. Peter is open about the five years he spent depressed without a name for it. They also get into retirement, why "money won't make you happy" never lands until you've had it, OnlyFans and AI girlfriends, and the 15 minutes most men refuse to spend looking at a tree.
Men on a Mission is hosted by Peter Iglesias. Mental health, physical health, financial health, relationships. Full conversations, not highlight reels.
CHAPTERS0:00 Daniel Rubin is back1:19 Suicide among men2:49 Four times as likely3:05 Little boys don't cry4:41 It wasn't one event5:23 Can I prepay 10 sessions?6:45 Nobody takes time to reflect8:11 Why therapy still carries a stigma8:54 His kids, even the 3-year-old, in therapy10:19 Peter used to call it weakness11:43 When a partner says suck it up12:25 "I don't feel anything anymore"13:04 Most men don't see it themselves14:32 Brutal honesty in a marriage15:51 Men don't trust people17:11 Work has 24/7 access to us18:25 Too scared to ask for a break20:03 Work as a coping mechanism21:20 Where are you going?22:24 The top of the mountain24:17 Saying it out loud26:55 You want judgment29:01 Community and the Foundation pillars31:00 Rethinking the gym32:36 Ask him for help first33:31 When the one thing gets taken34:05 Retirement and the yacht35:00 Money won't make you happy38:25 OnlyFans and AI girlfriends42:23 Would your kid call you at midnight?43:58 Single parents and community45:26 Why the book matters47:07 Do the hard thing first48:05 What you feed your brain in the morning50:06 Morning routines51:20 Fifteen minutes and a tree52:05 Wrap-up
ABOUT THE GUESTDaniel Rubin is a licensed mental health counselor and the owner of Transcend Wellness, an intensive outpatient program in Wilton Manors, Florida built only for men. He is one of the leaders of the Men on a Mission Foundation. His first conversation with Peter is Episode 007.
Transcend Wellness on Instagram: https://instagram.com/transcend_wellness_iop
Peter's book, It's Okay to Not Be Okay: https://moampod.com/links
Watch the full conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ivCVSS_zvZY
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This podcast is a conversation, not therapy or medical advice. If you're struggling, call or text 988 in the US for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, any time of day. Veterans press 1.

Eric was having a stroke on the gym floor and did not know it. Storm read the signs, said we're calling 911 on you right now, and made the call. His neurosurgeon later told him that another 30 minutes and he would not have made it.
Peter sits down with Eric Jacobowitz, a firefighter paramedic in Broward County, an International Association of Fire Fighters peer support counselor, and a software engineer, to talk about what happened after the emergency ended. The dark stretch nobody sees. The spiral. The two month wait for a psychiatrist. And the discovery that the man everybody calls in a crisis had no idea who to call himself.
Men on a Mission is hosted by Peter Iglesias. Mental health, physical health, financial health, relationships. Full conversations, not highlight reels.
CHAPTERS0:00 Meet Eric1:10 Firefighter, peer counselor, engineer2:22 The stroke at the gym2:40 Thirty minutes from gone3:28 Recovery is not the same as fine5:13 A wife, a son, and the money math7:03 When one salary was enough8:41 Spiraling while holding it together9:24 Why he could not tell his family10:06 The mentor who started drinking10:42 Building HeadStrong12:51 Rub dirt on it14:25 I was that guy16:08 Success is not happiness27:54 The Men on a Mission Foundation pillars30:57 The firefighter they lost33:19 What first responders carry home36:46 An appointment two months out38:06 No barrier to entry38:33 What the app does in a crisis
ABOUT THE GUESTEric Jacobowitz is a firefighter paramedic in Broward County, Florida, an International Association of Fire Fighters peer support counselor, and a software engineer. He is the founder of HeadStrong, a mental wellness platform built to remove every barrier between a person and help: no account required, anonymous by default, with peer chat, AI support, licensed therapists and crisis resources that are always free.
HeadStrong: https://www.getheadstrong.xyzOpen the app: https://app.getheadstrong.xyzInstagram: https://instagram.com/getheadstrong
Watch the full conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/9FMUoBFsUPo
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Most men think the pain is theirs alone. It isn't. It moves into the house, and everyone in it starts living around it.
Peter sits down with Josh Gordon, owner of Relax and Get Results, who worked on Peter's own recovery after spinal surgery a couple of years ago. 26 years in practice, four offices, clients ranging from UFC fighters and NFL players to people in their 90s still doing CrossFit. They get into what untreated pain does to a man's mood and then to his family, why so many men wait until they can't move, the day Josh found out what his hands could do while his mother was dying, and the real reason a lot of men actually book the hour.
Men on a Mission is hosted by Peter Iglesias. Mental health, physical health, financial health, relationships. Full conversations, not highlight reels.
CHAPTERS0:00 Meet Josh Gordon0:56 The spinal surgery that made them friends2:48 Why he walked out of the chiropractic office5:36 "That's not where I'm feeling it. How did you know?"9:20 Pain doesn't stay in your body. Your family lives in it10:16 Why a healer puts his hands on you12:36 Out of tune becomes dis-ease14:56 His mother, and the only thing that gave her relief15:52 "I'm out." Massage school, 199920:32 A man without a purpose is lost24:16 The generation that wants it now27:32 What a robot can't do32:12 Your body is a car33:36 "I'm not having a guy touch me"34:32 The real reason men book the hour
GUESTJosh Gordon, Relax and Get Results. Offices in Pines, Weston, Davie and Hollywood, FL.
Watch the full conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/144DAwTEZUY
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This podcast is a conversation, not therapy or medical advice. If you're struggling, call or text 988 in the US for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, any time of day. Veterans press 1.

Most men don't stay quiet because nobody told them to open up. They stay quiet because they tried it once and it cost them something.
Peter sits down with Catherine Lavern Rubin, a therapist who specialises in relationships, to talk about what actually holds two people together. What both partners have to be willing to do, the gap between what you mean and what you actually say, why we hang on to pain that feels familiar, where boundaries fit in, and why therapy is almost never what men picture it to be.
Men on a Mission is hosted by Peter Iglesias. Mental health, physical health, financial health, relationships. Full conversations, not highlight reels.
CHAPTERS0:00 Meet Catherine3:06 It only works if both of you are willing5:58 What all of us needed as kids8:52 Knowing someone's there when it falls apart17:28 One failure after another20:23 Why you lose your train of thought mid-argument26:06 The gap between what you mean and what you say34:41 The nanny, the maths, and the guilt37:48 Pausing long enough to remember why you're here40:35 When being vulnerable gets used against you53:34 Boundaries and discipline56:02 Therapy isn't what you think it is
Watch the full conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/L6VMEVp83Xs
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Mobbing is bullying by a group, and most of the people living through it don't have a word for it.
Alicia spent years as a head of marketing and communications before she walked away from a job she couldn't stay in. Around the same time she worked out her daughter was going through almost exactly the same thing at school. She now leads a movement to name it and stop it, working with employees, students and athletes, and training leaders to spot it before it does real damage.
Peter had never heard the term before this conversation. It turns out to reach men, women and children, and it costs organisations far more than most leaders think.
Men on a Mission is hosted by Peter Iglesias. Mental health, physical health, financial health, relationships. Full conversations, not highlight reels.
CHAPTERS0:00 Why this one isn't just for men1:35 Meet Alicia, and the Stop the Mobbing movement3:12 What a brand's ethos actually means6:07 You don't have to be friends with everyone9:07 The job she couldn't stay in12:05 Her daughter was going through it at school15:00 When it's the person at the top doing it17:56 Micromanagement as a symptom19:47 What it does to people over time25:53 Youth sports, and the parents on the sideline28:50 It starts with how we behave ourselves31:49 What she tells parents37:48 What mobbing costs a business43:45 Why she thinks it's getting worse
Watch the full conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Lu-6q4bzNEU
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Dr. Dean Fishman is the chiropractor who named Text Neck. He coined the term in 2009 after seeing the cervical curve of a 17 year old reversed on an X-ray, the kind of wear he was used to seeing in middle aged patients, and he went on to found the Text Neck Institute.
Peter sits down with him to talk about what modern life is doing to men's bodies. Posture, joint mobility, sleep position, nutrition, why pain medication treats the wrong end of the problem, and why you can't feel any of this until a symptom finally shows up.
Men on a Mission is hosted by Peter Iglesias. Mental health, physical health, financial health, relationships. Full conversations, not highlight reels.
CHAPTERS0:00 Meet Dr. Dean Fishman3:06 Who actually walks into his office8:50 Losing track of thoughts14:35 What proper posture actually means17:27 Getting older, and what you start to lose20:22 Text neck, and what phones do to your spine23:13 Why your joints need to move28:56 You can't feel it until you get a symptom37:17 Nutrition, and garbage in garbage out43:32 Pain medication, and what he's seen46:40 Asking why instead of treating the symptom56:00 Sleep posture1:02:18 Living with back pain himself
Talk to your own doctor about your health.
Watch the full conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/2How9QcmqOo
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Daniel Rubin is a licensed mental health counsellor with more than 15 years in men's mental health, trauma and emotional wellness. He founded Transcend Counseling and Consulting, where he runs an intensive outpatient program built only for men.
That last part is rarer than it sounds, and it is most of what this conversation is about. What changes when a man is in a room with other men who are carrying the same thing. Why the ones who look most fine are often the ones drinking a litre of scotch a night. What happens after the first two thoughts every man has walking in, which are usually how did I get here, and then, I'm okay.
Peter and Daniel get into financial pressure, presence, talking to your partner, and why healing one man tends to change everyone standing near him.
Men on a Mission is hosted by Peter Iglesias. Mental health, physical health, financial health, relationships. Full conversations, not highlight reels.
CHAPTERS0:00 Meet Daniel Rubin3:20 The program, and why it's built only for men6:30 A practice run with his wife and sister-in-law12:50 When the pressure is financial15:55 The moment it clicks19:00 The men who look fine and aren't22:05 Why it helps to see other men in the room25:11 Where the community does the work28:20 How did I get here, and then, I'm okay31:25 The thankless part of the job36:40 As he heals, so does everyone around him43:14 Presence is the whole thing49:48 Talking to your partner59:47 Knowing means you can get help1:03:02 How to reach him
Watch the full conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/e8UiKQKwQig
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Doug Scott went into a Forever Young clinic as a patient, had the labs done, found out he was deficient, and it changed enough that he ended up buying into the business. He has worked in bioidentical hormone therapy, weight loss and peptide therapy since 2017.
Peter, who is a patient himself, asks him the questions most men in their 40s and 50s never get around to asking. What the labs actually show. What peptides do and don't do. Why most doctors wait for something to break instead of looking earlier. What alcohol is quietly doing on the inside. And the daily routine Doug built around sleep, training and prayer.
Peter is a patient of Forever Young and has no ownership or financial interest in it. This is a personal account, not a paid promotion. Nothing here is medical advice. Talk to your own doctor before starting any hormone or peptide protocol.
Men on a Mission is hosted by Peter Iglesias. Mental health, physical health, financial health, relationships. Full conversations, not highlight reels.
CHAPTERS0:00 Meet Doug Scott2:49 Injuries, inflammation, and getting older5:23 Patients as living proof7:54 Peptides instead of a knee replacement10:26 Hot yoga, cardio, and the daily routine12:59 Proactive medicine versus reactive medicine15:35 Why it comes down to education20:37 What alcohol does on the inside25:46 The patients who stopped drinking27:31 Sleep, training, work and prayer35:13 Doing the hardest thing first
Watch the full conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/pNZlJRh08EY
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Eli Hastings has been a psychotherapist for 15 years, holds a master's in applied psychology and works mostly with complex trauma. He got there sideways, starting out as a teaching artist helping people resolve trauma through storytelling.
His argument here isn't the one you'd expect from a therapist. He thinks a lot of what gets labelled trauma isn't, that genuine chemical imbalance accounts for a small minority of cases, and that a large part of his own industry is content to run standard protocols for years without ever reaching the root of anything.
Peter pushes back, and they get into faith, roles in relationships, why Eli doesn't buy the toxic masculinity framing, and what happens when a man goes looking for help and finds nobody willing to work with him.
Men on a Mission is hosted by Peter Iglesias. Mental health, physical health, financial health, relationships. Full conversations, not highlight reels.
CHAPTERS0:00 Meet Eli Hastings3:13 From storytelling to psychotherapy6:20 The straw man industry12:30 Treating the problem or the symptom15:35 Trauma versus brain chemistry18:35 Why he doesn't think it's toxic masculinity23:49 Roles in relationships now26:55 The author who said men weren't her area33:15 Where faith fits in42:40 The mission trip to Guatemala45:49 Everything society said would make him happy58:29 His mother's illness
Watch the full conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/oquKPFi5Aho
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Peter left the studio for this one and recorded at Freakin Fitness in Weston, Florida, with a panel of men who built something there: Storm Kaufman, Logan Kaufman, Patrick Neeley and Amar Ravi.
The gym is the setting, not the subject. What they actually talk about is what happens to a man who has somewhere to show up, people who notice when he doesn't, and a reason to keep his word to somebody. Physical health feeding the emotional and spiritual kind. How camaraderie gets built rather than announced. Why phones and social media are quietly eating the thing that makes any of it work.
Also: raising kids who are sharper than we give them credit for, the exhaustion nobody admits to, and the first question one of them asks anyone he hires.
Huge thanks to Freakin Fitness for hosting: https://www.youtube.com/@freakinfitness970
Men on a Mission is hosted by Peter Iglesias. Mental health, physical health, financial health, relationships. Full conversations, not highlight reels.
CHAPTERS0:00 On location at Freakin Fitness4:08 What the gym actually is7:58 When life felt simpler11:49 The kinds of health nobody separates15:41 Diving in19:32 A different outlook23:27 Physical health feeds everything else27:20 How camaraderie gets built39:00 The part that hurts to watch42:56 The exhaustion nobody admits to47:36 Social media is addictive51:52 Under a tree, staring at a phone56:05 Resilience, and never getting too high1:00:24 Kids are smarter than we think1:08:48 When it starts to feel like a jail1:13:03 The first question he asks when hiring
Watch the full conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/I84itMP-qMc
All links: https://moampod.com/linksWebsite: https://moampod.comInstagram, TikTok, Facebook and X: @moampodContact: peter@moampod.com
This podcast is a conversation, not therapy or medical advice. If you're struggling, call or text 988 in the US for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, any time of day. Veterans press 1.